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Record for Charles Henry Murch (64) facts
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Record for Charles Henry Murch (64) facts
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Charles Henry Murch Jr 1894-1983
BIRTH 14 AUG 1894 • Warrensburg, New York, USA
DEATH 23 MAR 1983 • Boston, Suffolk, Massachusetts, USA
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Neale Faulkenham
Posted 11 jul 2009 by joekphipps
The following is an e-mail from Marjorie Welch Fairbanks to Joe Phipps. Marjorie is responding to a question about Neale Faulkenham who was her half-uncle and the half-brother of her father, Davison Moshier Welch.
Neale's parents were Marjorie Merriman Moshier and Mr. Murch.
When Marjorie died in 1926, she left two children, Davison and Neale. The children's maternal grandparents adopted Davison but not Neale. Neale was put up for adoption. Marjorie's e-mail talks about that situation. References to "Nan" are to Emma Gertrude Phipps, Marjorie's great-grandmother.
--- On Sat, 7/11/09, Marge Fairbanks wrote:
From: Marge Fairbanks
Subject: Re: Mystery Person
To: joe900@ameritech.net
Date: Saturday, July 11, 2009, 2:11 PM
Hi Joe,
I just got off the phone with Dad and asked him about Neale.....He is even more prolix than I am...so this will be a long one! Here goes:
There were three years between Dad and Neale. Their mother died when Dad was six and Neale was three. Dad already lived with Nan most of the time before Marjorie married Murch. She suffered from tuberculosis and was in and out of sanitoriums since she was in school. Dad had a maid, Mary, who mostly took care of him the years he went back and forth between Nan and his mother, because his mother was sick most of the time.
When Marjorie died (at age 29; b.1897- d.1926), Dad was already living with Nan. She wanted custody of both children, but Murch would not let her have Neale unless she paid him money for the custody. Nan refused to give him money, so he refused to let her have Neale. He let Neale stay with Aunt Minnie and Uncle Arthur Phipps for awhile, but he said if Nan wouldn't give him any money he would give Neale up for adoption to a black family. As Nan still refused him money, he adopted Neale out to the Faulkenhams. They were not a black family after all, but Dad doesn't know where Murch found them. The Faulkenhams were not well off, the husband worked in a laundry. So, it appears Murch acted out of spite so that Nan could not get Neale. Neale was the Faulkenham's only child and was extremely coddled by the mother.
In later years, Dad's father's family, Charles, Jenny and Marion Welch, tried to gain custody of Dad from Nan. But Nan fought it in court and won the suit so that she had permanent custody from then on.
As an adult, Neale located Murch working as a barber in Filene's and tried to reconnect with him. They went out to dinner a few times and Neale was happy to have found him, until Murch kept asking him for money. Neale refused and didn't have anything more to do with him after that.
Every Saturday, when Neale was a boy living with the Faulkenhams, Nan and Dad, and sometimes Paul Phipps or other members of the family, would visit Neale. Every time they went, Nan gave the Faulkenhams a check for $50 towards Neale's support. But, as I mentioned, Neale's adopted mother made him socially unfit. When Dad and Paul and Neale would play hard and perspire, she would make Neale come in and lay down with a cold cloth on his forehead, while the other boys continued to play. Eventually, Neale became the target of ridicule by schoolmates and he grew up a very lonely man always a loner. But, for many years he worked for the Waltham Paper Company and was their best salesman. The owner of the company favored Neale and he worked hard and had a successful career. Although he drank from 4:00 pm in the evening all night long, every night (Dad says)....he never missed work. But he isolated himself and finally died of alcoholism.
I have a round clay sculpted piece, hanging on my living room wall, of Neale's face as a very young boy that Nan sculpted. She was an artist, extremely creative, you know. That's where Dad got his talent. It's a great likeness of Neale. She kept a relationship with him throughout his boyhood. And I know my family did as I was growing up. He never married; and was a distinct character. He spent Christmases and Thanksgivings with us every year, and then at my home after I was married until the alcoholism became too much. Mother and Dad were with him when he died and he is buried in their family plot beside my mother and baby brother in Framingham, MA.
Dad added that he didn't know how much of this story Neale was ever aware of because they never discussed it between them. Neale was only three at the time he was adopted and Dad never wanted to tell him his father tried to sell him.
So, I guess Neale grew up knowing it was Murch who adopted him out, not Nan or the Phippses. Of course, whoever it was, there HAD to be some sense of rejection. Neale definitely did suffer from a sad boyhood and crippling isolation as an adult.
Marge
Neale Faulkenham
U.S. WWII Draft Cards Young Men, 1940-1947
U.S. City Directories, 1822-1995
Neale Faulkenham
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Moshier, Marjorie Merriman anc_joekphipps 20200511HAv-
Marjorie Merriman Moshier
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Moshier Family circa 1900
about 1900
Moshier's Summer Cottage, Inlet, New York, USA
From left:
- Will Moshier (standing),
- Gertrude Phipps Moshier (behind Will),
- Marjorie Merriman Moshier (in front of Will),
- Gladys Phipps Morley (sitting on step),
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Marjorie Merriman Moshier
Marjorie Merriman Moshier as a young woman. This photo was provided by her granddaughter, Marjorie Welch Fairbanks.
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