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Married:
- p. 27 of 234, iBook:
"at some point in 1946, Papaw cheated on Bonnie (South) with her best friend- Mamaw. Mamaw was 13 and Papaw 16, but the affair produced a pregnancy."
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James L Vance in the Ohio, U.S., Divorce Abstracts, 1962-1963, 1967-1971, 1973-2007
Ohio, U.S., Divorce Abstracts, 1962-1963, 1967-1971, 1973-2007
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Name James L Vance
Decree 19 May 1981
Butler, Ohio, USA
Res Middletown, Butler
Grounds Gross Neglect/Extreme Cruelty
granted Wife
Marriage 33 years
Minor Children 0
Spouse Bonnie Vance
Cert 17635
Volume 4567
- 33 years. "Mamaw and Papaw were married as teenagers in Jackson, in 1947."
Divorced:
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James L Vance in the Ohio, U.S., Divorce Abstracts, 1962-1963, 1967-1971, 1973-2007
Ohio, U.S., Divorce Abstracts, 1962-1963, 1967-1971, 1973-2007
text only
Name James L Vance
Decree 19 May 1981
Butler, Ohio, USA
Res Middletown, Butler
Grounds Gross Neglect/Extreme Cruelty
granted Wife
Marriage 33 years
Minor Children 0
Spouse Bonnie Vance
Cert 17635
Volume 4567
- Minor Children: 0. To Wife: Grounds: Gross Neglect/Extreme Cruelty
Issue, jt:
- "Mamaw suffered 8 miscarriages in the decade between Uncle Jimmy's birth and my mother's."
p.37- Mamaw and Papaw had three kids- Jimmy, Bev (my mom) and Lori.
Jimmy was born in 1951, when Mamaw and Papaw were integrating into their lives. They wanted more children, so the tried and tried, through a heartbreaking period of terrible luck and numerous miscarriages. Mamaw carried the emotional scars of nine lost children for her entire life.
Mom was born on January 20, 1961-- the day of John F. Kennedy's inauguration-- and my aunt Lori came along less than two years later. For whatever reason, Mamaw and Papaw stopped there.
p.38- Whatever unity they possessed early in their marriage bagan to evaporate after their daughter, Lori-- whom I call Aunt Wee-- was born in 1962.
p.39- Before Mamaw was married, her brothers had been willing to murder boys who disrespected their sister. Now that she was married to a man whom many of them considered more a brother than an outsider, they tolerated behavior that would have gotten Papaw killed in the holler. "Mom's brothers would come up and want to go carousing with Dad," Uncle Jimmy explained... Uncle Pet was always the leader.
p. 41- It's not obvious to anyone why Mamaw and Papaw's marriage fell apart. Perhaps Papaw's alcoholism got the best of him. Uncle Jimmy suspects that he eventually "ran around" on Mamaw. Or maybe Mamaw just cracked-- with three living kids, one dead one, and a host of miscarriages in between, who could have blamed her?
p.42- All three children were profoundly affected by their tumultuous home life.
Lori struggled in school, mostly because she never attended class.
p.43 The next year, at sixteen, Lori dropped out of high school and married. She immediately found herself trapped in an abusive home just like the one she'd tried to escape. Her new husband would lock her in a bedroom to keep her from seeing her family. "It was almost like a prison," Aunt Wee later told me.
Unfortunately the statistics caught up with the Vance family, and BEV (my mom) didn't fare so well. Like her siblings, she left home early. She was a promising student, but when she got pregnant at eighteen, she decided college had to wait.
After high school, she married her boyfriend and tried to settle down. But settling down wasn't quite her thing: She had learned the lessons of her childhood all too well. When her new life developed the same fighting and drama so present in her old one, Mom filed for divorce and began life as a single mother. She was nineteen, with no degree, no husband, and a little girl- my sister, Lindsay.
"Mamaw suffered 8 miscarriages in the decade between Uncle Jimmy's birth and my mother's."
p.37- Mamaw and Papaw had three kids- Jimmy, Bev (my mom) and Lori.
Jimmy was born in 1951, when Mamaw and Papaw were integrating into their lives. They wanted more children, so they tried and tried, through a heartbreaking period of terrible luck and numerous miscarriages. Mamaw carried the emotional scars of nine lost children for her entire life.
Mom was born on January 20, 1961-- the day of John F. Kennedy's inauguration-- and my aunt Lori came along less than two years later. For whatever reason, Mamaw and Papaw stopped there.
p.38- Whatever unity they possessed early in their marriage bagan to evaporate after their daughter, Lori-- whom I call Aunt Wee-- was born in 1962.
p.39- Before Mamaw was married, her brothers had been willing to murder boys who disrespected their sister. Now that she was married to a man whom many of them considered more a brother than an outsider, they tolerated behavior that would have gotten Papaw killed in the holler. "Mom's brothers would come up and want to go carousing with Dad," Uncle Jimmy explained... Uncle Pet was always the leader.
p. 41- It's not obvious to anyone why Mamaw and Papaw's marriage fell apart. Perhaps Papaw's alcoholism got the best of him. Uncle Jimmy suspects that he eventually "ran around" on Mamaw. Or maybe Mamaw just cracked-- with three living kids, one dead one, and a host of miscarriages in between, who could have blamed her?
p.42- All three children were profoundly affected by their tumultuous home life.
Lori struggled in school, mostly because she never attended class.
p.43 The next year, at sixteen, Lori dropped out of high school and married. She immediately found herself trapped in an abusive home just like the one she'd tried to escape. Her new husband would lock her in a bedroom to keep her from seeing her family. "It was almost like a prison," Aunt Wee later told me.
Unfortunately the statistics caught up with the Vance family, and BEV (my mom) didn't fare so well. Like her siblings, she left home early. She was a promising student, but when she got pregnant at eighteen, she decided college had to wait.
After high school, she married her boyfriend and tried to settle down. But settling down wasn't quite her thing: She had learned the lessons of her childhood all too well. When her new life developed the same fighting and drama so present in her old one, Mom filed for divorce and began life as a single mother. She was nineteen, with no degree, no husband, and a little girl- my sister, Lindsay.
"Mamaw suffered 8 miscarriages in the decade between Uncle Jimmy's birth and my mother's."
p.37- Mamaw and Papaw had three kids- Jimmy, Bev (my mom) and Lori.
Jimmy was born in 1951, when Mamaw and Papaw were integrating into their lives. They wanted more children, so they tried and tried, through a heartbreaking period of terrible luck and numerous miscarriages. Mamaw carried the emotional scars of nine lost children for her entire life.
Mom was born on January 20, 1961-- the day of John F. Kennedy's inauguration-- and my aunt Lori came along less than two years later. For whatever reason, Mamaw and Papaw stopped there.
p.38- Whatever unity they possessed early in their marriage bagan to evaporate after their daughter, Lori-- whom I call Aunt Wee-- was born in 1962.
p.39- Before Mamaw was married, her brothers had been willing to murder boys who disrespected their sister. Now that she was married to a man whom many of them considered more a brother than an outsider, they tolerated behavior that would have gotten Papaw killed in the holler. "Mom's brothers would come up and want to go carousing with Dad," Uncle Jimmy explained... Uncle Pet was always the leader.
p. 41- It's not obvious to anyone why Mamaw and Papaw's marriage fell apart. Perhaps Papaw's alcoholism got the best of him. Uncle Jimmy suspects that he eventually "ran around" on Mamaw. Or maybe Mamaw just cracked-- with three living kids, one dead one, and a host of miscarriages in between, who could have blamed her?
p.42- All three children were profoundly affected by their tumultuous home life.
Lori struggled in school, mostly because she never attended class.
p.43 The next year, at sixteen, Lori dropped out of high school and married. She immediately found herself trapped in an abusive home just like the one she'd tried to escape. Her new husband would lock her in a bedroom to keep her from seeing her family. "It was almost like a prison," Aunt Wee later told me.
Unfortunately the statistics caught up with the Vance family, and BEV (my mom) didn't fare so well. Like her siblings, she left home early. She was a promising student, but when she got pregnant at eighteen, she decided college had to wait.
After high school, she married her boyfriend and tried to settle down. But settling down wasn't quite her thing: She had learned the lessons of her childhood all too well. When her new life developed the same fighting and drama so present in her old one, Mom filed for divorce and began life as a single mother. She was nineteen, with no degree, no husband, and a little girl- my sister, Lindsay.
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